I'm writing this entry because I have had a couple conversations with a friend of mine who is going through a tough time in terms of dating.
When I was younger, like any girl would, I would dream about my wedding. I used to go on David's Bridal to look at wedding dresses, I used to look at engagement rings, and I'm pretty sure at one point I actually had a list of songs I wanted to play at my wedding reception.
One of the reasons I always took break-ups so horribly was my fear of being alone and not getting married.
Then, once I grew up, I told myself to chill out.
Marriage and love used to be things that would take a long time. Well, in some cases. My grandpa only went on 3 dates with my grandma and he married her (he was also in World War II so I've always felt like army/Marine cases are different). Saying "I love you" to someone used to be a big deal. Me saying "I love you" is a HUGE deal for me. I was a nervous wreck when I told Dan I loved him. To me, when you tell someone you love them, you are offering someone your heart on a silver platter. You are showing your trust and your vulnerability, and to me that is petrifying. But all went well and it didn't scare him off.
Nowadays saying "I love you" isn't that big of a deal anymore. Teenagers are saying it after 2 days of dating someone, IF THAT. Love is a feeling that takes a lot of time. It's not something that can just...happen instantly. Obviously, I'm not a believer in love at first sight. To really love someone, you need to know them. You need to know their quirks. You need to really get to know them inside and out. You need to see if you're compatible with them. You can't know that after just a couple of hours.
Then there's this whole marriage shit. People are getting engaged in high school. People are getting married right OUT of high school. WHY? What is the RUSH? You are still a kid in high school. You haven't even gone to college or gotten a real job yet. You haven't discovered yourself outside this little bubble town you've grown up in. If you want to stay with your high school sweetheart, that is one thing but throwing your life away because you want to rush into adulthood is another.
And then suddenly I realize why a lot of people feel lonely in this world. It's because people are in a rush to be an adult. And high schoolers, teenagers, let me tell you: being an adult is not fun at all. Maturity is one thing, but to actually own up to being an adult...it's scary. Cling to your youth. Be young, have fun. I love the guy I am dating very much. I am in the happiest, most stable relationship thingy I've ever been in. I'm petrified that one day I may lose him. But if that ever does happen...all I need to do is remember that I'm only 24. I've got so much time left (hopefully, as long as the world doesn't end in 8 months). If your relationship ends up not working out, don't fret my loves. You'll find him/her. You just gotta take it one step at a time.
With love,
Liv
Song in title: "Haven't Met You Yet" by Michael Buble.
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